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Posted:Jul 19, 2020 7:05 am
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I am separated at the moment .Nice woman , many good qualities ,attractive , loyal, dedicated , Just no passion , no sexual drive or experience ,too many traumas in her past .I could not keep going down that road again . So I went to a dating site , vanilla style put a pic , did a short intro filled the bubbles and waited . I am surprised .In one day views ,7 likes ! Wow 50 % positive response Never have seen that before when i was younger . Now I am not looking date at yet ,and I have my soulmate already found 10 years ago so I will wait see if we can get things reignited (looks promising so far ) but , It takes time lots of time and I must be patient and take things slowly . I would be curious ask the ladies who liked why ? what made you push that mouse click lol I had very little info at that point . As I am separated I figured throw it out there see what the universe says Well I got more positive response there than from my wife ?! humans are strange many times .I will never understand emotion based decision making .It does not make sense much of the time .It seems work out sometimes when you are not looking it comes looking for you lol. I know I am fighting the loss of human touch ,between the covid and the non affectionate wife it has been 9 months since any contact and 6 yrs since I had passionate rewarding sex It has to change at some point lol. What is the opinion of casual sex from a ladies view? I really am not wired for that .I don't like the emptiness without emotional connection .I am horny but in no way ready to even try to get some hahaha Just too much hassle I will hang out and wait for the woman i truly care for to get off her ass and take me back into her arms . till then ,more research lolMaybe a nice blowjob ,that i could handle til my phone blows every hour haha no drama please I did not buy a ticket that show and never will again ...my birthday comes again also .Not that much time left find what I truly want .but it is not the age it is the mileage that counts and I have rarely been even driven .im low mileage wives never rode much !
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Posted:Jul 3, 2020 11:52 am
Last Updated:Jul 10, 2020 1:12 pm
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There are many really bad ways communicate .There are some that work really well .The most obvious ways often do not work because it is a 2 way feedback loop .It does not matter what you said , it does not matter what you intended say .It only matters what they perceived you said and inferred your intent .sucks doesn't it ? you can only present what you wish say in the plainest correct language .Guess what ? They have know the actual meaning of the words you used !! Words are specific , ask a lawyer lol. One technique that actually works is reach and withdraw. get someone who may be questioning communicating with you.You reach out with a simple message , email or ,basic , non committal , non aggressive non negative message you know they may be interested in . example , They like a certain artist ,performer . Hey artist X is going be in town in 4 weeks ,I always liked their music . have a good day . then you go silent and wait . If they respond you give a short response of the correct middling type wish them well and disappear for a full week . no texts , no messages ,if they text you do not respond immediately let it wait at least a day .It builds anticipation for your response and makes you seem a bit of a mystery . This actually works really well because of human psychology . reach and withdraw . be patient and let them come to you by not blowing up their phone like a desperate nutjob . the key is withdraw and stay that way a while .make them think of you and wonder what you are up to .or do a quick , hey i have 20 min want to grab a coffee, tea matcha ? like a friend not someone who wants to bang them senseless , that comes later lol less is more folks . learn to pull people in ,they want to think and feel about things for a while let them ! be positive , be brief , be funny , be honest , but do not be quick to react . you do not catch a prize bass by smashing the lure on their snout over and over . set it out gently and slowly draw it past them and entice them , keep doing it as long as it takes to get the bite ,patience . No great prize is ever won without patience , determination , sacrifice and hard work .Live in the present fully .Do not think of the past it brings worry and worry brings suffering , do not think on the future it also brings worry and suffering ,Trust that things will be the way they are supposed to be ,one day at a time with no reaching forward and no reaching back .It brings peace and calm to your mind and soul .You have not control over the universe and fighting it just wears you out ,so sit and be still a while , peace to all .
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Posted:Jul 2, 2020 9:39 am
Last Updated:Jul 4, 2020 4:58 am
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As I go through my life deeper into the later stages The truth and the real meanings come to the fore .The chasing after the crap that the evil changers want you buy and take your for false feelings of , security comfort , freedom status, ego, etc just does not have any appeal . My good friend died on the table a bit a go in heart surgery ,they got him back It was his wake up call which he shared with .None of the crap means anything! don't waste time you do not have forever .Choose what and who is important you . Make the best of the time have the people around you you want ,who make you a better man and understand you .Tell someone you love them NOW! not later Be honest .Be kind everyone and be slow anger or offense . stick your values ,never compromise those. Whew .Truth from a guy who died for a while and had regrets. was already well on that path my whole life .i never cared about , power, admiration, things, i only wanted use my gifts heal people and make lives better .I wanted find one woman be with and love ,respect, admire, share each other fully in all ways . I did poorly the first time lol. i did not much better the second ,I was running from the right one because I got frustrated and could not make things happen as I wished due circumstance and ai tried substituting ,That did not work at all. The right woman is still in my soul , she never left , It may now actually work better later ,not sure but I am giving it a try .i don't have forever so get it I figured ,Lots of upheaval , tears , sick feeling mixed with hope and caution .It will all work out as it is intended Live today , be yourself , don't worry about the past or future , be mindful and be at peace . Now if I can get my soon to be ex to stop being crazy and melting down .she will hopefully get help to heal for herself , and not try to live for others and please everyone . I am hopeful . Be well , Physical things do not last .
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times they are a changing
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Posted:Jun 24, 2020 10:06 am
Last Updated:Jun 25, 2020 6:17 am
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As I get older , I become more philosophical .The are raised, the former wife is almost paid off .I found an amazing woman ,but it just could not be made work due circumstances .I walked away ,foolishly but necessarily .I found another woman by miracle that I thought would be the answer .It has not worked out well .She is a fine person but the ghosts in her life do not allow her be a good mate .Moving on is tough but better after 4 than 20 of unhappiness .Life is what happens. no regrets , We both grew from the experience . She got much healthier and I learned how be patient and focus on the good things .It is not about , things, ,cars< trips, being liked by everyone having clothes ,jewels , having a big fancy house or flashy cars ,those are all empty in the end and fade . I have had success and have been down . I survived both .Happier when down and humble ,and alone than when successful living with stress and lies .I have faith that all things work as they are supposed in the end , we just don't know what that will be until it happens ,We have only control over material decisions .Most decisions really do not matter in the end . Only 3 count . What are my values in life ? what am I going do with my life be a good citizen and support myself ? and who am I going spend my life with ? those have be gotten right and all else will be just fine . I got 2 out of 3 twice . I love my profession ,I hate how circumstances have made it so hard be successful consistently .People and laws change , attitudes do not change enough at times It is hard reach people , they cannot think straight everything is a momentary meme distract I crave deeper meaning my life at this point .. If I can help one person I am satisfied I have done my best at this point . I think a great deal ,try find solutions .If no solution is obvious I let it go a higher power .Sometimes you just need be still and listen .It will come you if you do not chase after things , Simple say ,Tough to do . I still have hope for getting that right woman back in my life .She has reconnected with ,we have spoken a bit , I know she thinks of ,I know she truly loved .The rest will work itself out as I get myself back on track and just be still. I am grateful , hopeful, at peace mostly ,and looking the next . my buddy says go get laid , have fun .It has no appeal .I cannot enjoy meaningless sex.I need the whole deal full connection mind body heart and soul enjoy it . I am fine with that .
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life goes in odd ways .
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Posted:Jun 15, 2020 10:44 am
Last Updated:Jun 17, 2020 6:14 am
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As of late I made a decision to change my life in a major way .Why? My marriage of 4 years , 3 of which were at long distance with minor visits and 1 living together was just not working well. She had major emotional issues that blocked any bonding and sex was nearly non existant . How do you not know the bad experience in college messed up your sexuality ? or the bad marriage to the mentally ill guy messed up your thought process? How about you have nearly no sexual experiences that are normal , good or fulfilling in your life ? Add in bad health habits , anxiety disorder, constant worrying , lack of self confidence and there you go ..A terrible relationship with your new husband who was told everything would be just fine when he asked about the no sex or bad sex, or lack any response from her to attempts to start affections ..I trusted her .She did not know she lied .she was completely unaware until with me that this stuff was in there . I felt like I was duped. I was not happy a single hour of the time together ,even when we did try bonding spiritually, physically it was a disaster of , avoidance , fear , pulling away or just boring unsatisfying attempts ,. She turned me off totally and I stopped trying to get her excited ,it would never bring me any connection .I pulled aWAY physically and emotionally .I went through this garbage for 21 yrs the first time .I will not wait and see if it can be helped for 5 more with a new wife .I do not have the time to sit unfulfilled, angry , alone and feeling unwanted the whole time . No I want to move on ,divorce , go your way .I maybe can find a nice normal , loving , woman who shares my feelings for her and can reciprocate .Maybe not but I will not be hung out to dry again while I wait for you to get straight , you should have gotten straight before I married you .God has a purpose I guess. I had a great woman before for a number of years who set the bar pretty high . I still love her completely even if I had to stop seeing her . I know what is possible and I want that .Not going to settle for humdrum , blah , no love life marriage again . It is hard I know ,She is hurt badly , but I was lied to over and over v,
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finding that one ,not being able to be with them .
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Posted:Jun 2, 2020 6:38 am
Last Updated:Jun 2, 2020 6:09 pm
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years ago by chance I met a woman from another city .we chatted a while, really were sharing an energy .The conversation just flowed , no end it , easy , fast , we understood each others thoughts and vision . wow . then I find out she was dating another guy before she met me .He was successful , older . quite enamored and kind of pushy with her I told her I,m out then, she had a man already ,I don't fish another's pond . she told him she would not go exclusive because she was not ready .She also wanted to keep seeing and fucking our brains out . Now circumstances were terrible for each of us . we could not get much time together ,just one night a week but what magic .So deep so strong , the passion the energy ,blew our minds . It was a bit of a struggle to drive 90 miles after work that one night ,but I felt so good with her and her .It was so natural .I still can see us together in my mind now 9 yrs later ..It sucks lol. Things got worse for us circumstance wise .I could not give her the security her family needed, she was working 90hrs a week , the other guy kind of kept hanging around because he had work for her to earn money for his business. I finally felt I could not go on with no path to ever being with her full time apparent in any future .It was a horrible stalemate .I prayed on it so hard ,and decided I must step out of the picture before it gets worse and I get crushed . Maybe I bailed too soon but it had been 3 years .I was totally in love with her and her and no way to ever make us a family .It was soul crushing .we were so good together .So I stopped driving to see her .I used the time excuse I think ,she was so tired so overwhelmed .I sacrificed my own happiness for her families security as a man who loves so deeply should do . It hurt like hell for a long while . she stopped by me once and said I,d like to see you again . It was so hard to admit .how was that going to happen , she agreed and said I know .That was the last I saw or heard from her 6 years ago . My life was sucked out of me to give that but it just should not be so hard if it is meant be . I always think of her ,so vivid in my mind I can hear her voice , smell her scent , feel her embrace .I tried move , met someone ,nice , sweet , kind , married her . and we have no chemistry , no sex, no passion , no affection we separated ..and the other woman showed back when I looked ,living now in my old town miles away wtf??! she is probably living with mr money bags .but I contacted her by linked in , she immediately accepted and we chatted a bit .It came back for both of us She has been doing the same thing remembering reliving our time in her mind and I am sure ,her heart , We are meant be together somewhere ,sometime hahaha . . My buddy saw her 6 months ago . he said she asked about me .he could tell she still loves me and wants me .maybe there is hope .I will see her for the first time in 6 years , we shall see in 9 days .I hope she is so nervous she is sick to her stomach like me . I am unsure how to act but will let the situation out following her lead ,I will it coy and not chase at . I will be steve mc queen , mysterious and quiet .lol I have get over my breakup still .give it time ,what'sanother year after it being 10 ? can't support her like mr money ,but he does not have her heart … God my stomach hurts from this stuff . maybe she will just blow me off and treat me like an old friend she does not dearly love … that would be my life lol. love sucks and not in a good way most times,
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Posted:Dec 22, 2019 9:39 am
Last Updated:Apr 16, 2024 6:5 am
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As I get older and wiser I see the deeper connections more and more .Most eole are surface surfers who know no depth of anything .Just go from one suerficial experience /pleasure /distraction to the next oblivious to any meaning or real truth . I find it all somewhat comical in the bigger universe of life /truth.Sad , but comical .Please take the time to look deeper at the world and people around you and ask some questions about why? how ? does this connect to another layer ? Do I fit in here somewhere ? Why do I have to deal with so many gerbils and lemmings all the time ? . If you never ask any questions of a probing nature ,you never learn anything of actual value to your life . Truth is that which is and always is .It does not depend on your mood, feelings, location , beliefs ,or hopes ,it simply is . I find the lack of desire to learn and know to be a total turnoff .So many people are shallow empty shells who just make everyone else's life harder ,peopleing people, dependant , co- dependant, dull, dim witted , self absorbed , no fun and no to anyone .Certainly not appropriate for an intimate relationship or even a driveby boinking lol. please be aware of others,and how you effect them .please have decency, integrity ,manners and respect .do not act like ignorant and toward others. The whole world is not about your feelings all the time! Men and women need to chill a bit and get deeper understanding of the truth of life from each other .Learn to let insignificant little stuff go un noticed and un effecting . Try a bit of patience , symathy , empathy and understanding .No one knows what has gone on in anothers mind/life/ heart unless they tell you .Do not assume, do not resume, do not have expectations that are unreasonable and out of balance with truth . To all BE well in all ways ,and be kind to each other .Truth always wins out in the end ,deceptron is always punished . be safe out there and put your damn phone away when driving !! Dr sarcasticles
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Posted:Mar 4, 2019 7:18 pm
Last Updated:Apr 16, 2024 6:5 am
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I find as I live more days in an over technological world ,real communication is near impossible . Many people do not even understand the words of the English language .They are born here , educated (supposedly) here and do not have a clue about words . Then we get into 165 character bits of brain vomit that pass for communication .We have devolved into homo habilis for gosh sake ! Lets grunt , throw mud, wag our private parts and screech .It would be better communication than we now have .It would at least be in the real world with actual humans to observe it . Words are specific ! They need to be carefully chosen to bring across an actual specific meaning if possible .I don't think it's possible since most people color everything they read with messed up psycho babble self talk in their over stimulated under nourished gray matter . What I said was not what you think you heard . Think about the picture your words are painting .Is it a fingerpainting from kindergarten ? Do you wish to be seen as a divinci instead ? Such a long way to go for 30 seconds of pubococcygeus contraction ......
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Posted:Jan 24, 2019 5:15 pm
Last Updated:Apr 16, 2024 6:5 am
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It seems certain common difficulties arise between and women in a sexual mood . The winter can make it cold dank and dreary .some women will want more attention and cuddling to supprt them as it raises their mood .they have less to attend to outside so may be more open to sex .baby births peak in the north in aug sept oct for a reason lol. Now the trouble . room temperature may never be suffiscient to keep a lady comfortable and in the mood .Any man who has ever heard his lady say omg freezing as he tries to get romantic can relate .The room may be 80deg , but this means nothing . if you turn up the actual heat , not the figurative heat .It may get hot enough to make her sweat and she then she says omg it's so hot sweating and it makes me cold !!! lol. I do not think there is a solution to keeping a lady happy with the temperature in the room for very long . i told my ex once as she sat, freezing she said, on a couch 9 ft from a a lopi . fireplace insert heater on full blast I will gladly throw you right in it if that helps Has any other person had ongoing issues with heat or cool maintenance with a partner?
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Posted:Feb 13, 2013 4:53 pm
Last Updated:Apr 16, 2024 6:5 am
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travel time but not time travel
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Posted:Feb 1, 2013 5:05 pm
Last Updated:Mar 13, 2013 7:53 pm
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will be going to florida, hope it is warm , it has been very cold and snowy where i am and i am sick of it .i always just go with the flow when traveling , pack light , leave time plan ahead. they have a walmart where i am going so no need to bring everything i own like so many flyers do. The damn bags don't fit in the overhead and they are so damn slow loading the plane and getting their usually fat ,slow , addled butts in the seat , really should take what? 6 seconds ?to shove bag in and get in seat ! I just take it easy and when i am there i am there . then whatever strikes my fancy , no long plans to try to do every touristy thing and lame internet hot spot. nope head for nature and history and local culture. or the hotel with a beautiful lady . Ok that last bit is pure fantasy since i don't have one lol. so do you go the way of all the other folks , or do you take the road less traveled ?
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the truth about sheep
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Posted:Dec 30, 2012 11:11 am
Last Updated:Apr 16, 2024 6:5 am
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the problem with dumbasses is they are deluded unto thinking they are fine normal intelligent people. They do often get a sense hey are not so bright as some ,and are fearful of being found out .The anxiety makes them try to be accepted as equal to others by doing what others do and pretending to be like everyone else . they do not have a single coherent thought that is wholly their own .Thus sheep are born into society . They find their flock that is like them and try to attack and put down members of the other flocks . It is hilarious ,well it would be if it was not so destructive and pointless.Just be you . Accept what you know and do not know .Never worry about what others think ,what makes you feel they know more than you? Be the best you you can be and screw those who don't like you ,well screw those who treat you nice and are decent honest sexy people,you get my meaning . Just let it all go ,like water off a ducks back , be , do not try to control ,or help, of change anything ,accept it . Now do try to change yourself if things are not working out so well. I also recommend someone be brave enough to aT least go to dinner with me! haha You all say you want some companionship ,yet the ladies never follow through . lol. peace and good gealth in the new year . Do Not Be A Sheep! nor should you do a sheep.
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best wishes
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Posted:Dec 24, 2012 10:12 pm
Last Updated:Dec 29, 2012 3:22 pm
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merry christmas , and happy channukah ,kwanzaa and any other spiritual festival. I would like to thank all those special people who bring laughter and insight into my life,and inspire me to do what I do . molto grazie. may you find contentment ,fullfillment ,and passion in some measure every day .I hope all know that they are loved by someone always . for the ones I love and may not be able to share it with or show it,please know it is yesterday ,today, tomorrow, and always, regardless.
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To link to this blog (clittywhisperer1) use [blog clittywhisperer1] in your messages.
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